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Selfish or Self-Caring?

Selfish or Self-Caring?None of us wants to be seen as selfish, even though it’s normal to feel and behave selfishly at times. This might be something as simple as eating more than our fair share of the Oreos or hogging the TV remote. But we understand that selfishness is not an acceptable part of the […]

Confidence, Pride, Ego and Self-Esteem

We all want to be confident. Most of us would like to be proud. Few of us want to be seen as egotistical, and everyone needs to have good self-esteem. But how are these experiences different, and how much control do we have over them? The answer to the second question is—quite a bit. But […]

The Amazing Benefits of Two-Handed Writing

I’m no salesman, but if I were, I would sell people on the amazing benefits of two-handed writing. Not a dime would change hands, so the benefits would all belong to those of you willing to give this unconventional technique a try. I’ve been teaching two-handed writing to my psychotherapy clients for 28 years, helping them change and/or heal their minds, but […]

The Breakfast Club’s Wisdom

The Breakfast Club, a critically acclaimed and enormously popular movie made in 1985 by director John Hughes, features five high school students serving a Saturday detention together that ultimately changes their lives. The movie was chosen for preservation by the Library of Congress for being “culturally, historically, or aesthetically significant.” Perhaps the wisdom of The Breakfast Club escaped the Library’s notice. The characters in […]

Becoming Bi-Brained

The sayings “Two heads are better than one” and “Let’s put our heads together” are popular idioms for good reason. Their truths are apparent when trying to solve difficult problems, make important decisions, or come up with creative ideas. What most people don’t realize is that we already have two “heads” within our own brain that […]

How to Win When You’re Losing (and Vice Versa)

Few would disagree that winning feels great and losing feels lousy. That is why it is good to know how to win when you’re in the midst of losing, and how to avoid losing when you’re in the midst of winning. There’s a card game called Spades that our family and friends have played together […]

A New Paradigm for Healing the Mind

It’s easy for psychologists in Western civilization to assume that we understand more about human nature and how to improve mental health than pre-modern societies. Having the most sophisticated scientific methods providing a backbone of validity and credibility on matters of human nature gives us confidence in our paradigm of mental health, so much so […]

The Difference Between Curing and Healing the Mind

Psychologists are trained and paid to treat mental illness. But what does that really mean? For that matter, when it comes to the mind, what does the word illness really mean? For the average John or Jane to go to therapy, must they be mentally ill? And regardless of what’s being treated, what is meant […]

The Best Way to Motivate

Procrastinate much? Do you or a kid you love have trouble getting it in gear and getting things done? Would you rather indulge in the fun stuff than grind away at all those important, difficult, and/or tedious responsibilities? Welcome to the majority. But don’t worry, these patterns can be changed more easily than you’d think. […]

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